This sample BSV demonstrates how to:
1) Have a form to filter choices in a reference list (see screen shot below):

2) Show only instances NOT currently on the reference list:

The key is the query: "Country Choices List". The query's FIND action is modeled after the workaround shown in the User Guide -- Appendix B #14:
FIND Country WHERE COUNT RegularUser WHERE (RegularUser IN Country.Users AND RegularUser=ThisRegularUser)=0 ORDER BY Country.Name
Note that this query uses the form "Country Choices Filter". This form produces the "Country Choices Filter" in the first screen shot above.
Download Sample BSV: Add_Country_Filter_8_31_2009.bsv
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